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February 09, 2011

How to save a third of your income and still have FUN: Expert Q&A

Chances are you've already come across Kimberly Palmer's blog, Alpha Consumer, which is full of fresh and practical advice. Or maybe you've seen or read new her book, Generation Earn, which just made the top five in Mint.com's financial literacy reading listSo you can imagine how thrilled I was that she agreed to answer my questions about her project and her philosophy, and even ask me a few questions back!

In our email exchange we discovered we're similarly obsessed with helping others re-envision their relationship with money. We're both members of Gen Y and both have spent more than 23 days in Washington D.C. (She live there, and I've passed through on occasion.) Unlike me, she seems incredibly disciplined and managed to buy a condo thanks to her frugality. I've learned a lot from her, and I'm pleased to share her answers, below.


Expert: Kimberly Palmer
Twitter bio:  Gen Y personal finance expert, author, and personal finance columnist for U.S. News & World Report 
Check out: "Recession Lessons from Gen Y" via Alpha Consumer.
Exciting: She was recently profiled and interviewed by Fox Business.
Why she rocks: She isn't just giving young people tools for financial responsibility: She's a living, breathing example that her ideas are doable: even the biggest one, saving a third of your annual income, is a goal she preaches after a year of practice.

When I hear you put aside third of your income, I freak out. It seems like so much! But then when I read about the life you were leading, it seemed totally doable. You didn't fall apart, you didn't sit on the carpet eating ramen and staring at the walls. Here's my question: When you started out, did you fear it would be impossible? How did you mentally and emotionally prep yourself for the changes you were about to make?

We actually never sat down and said, “Let’s start saving one-third of our income,” we just decided to be more frugal – and actually, both my husband and I were pretty frugal to begin with, so it wasn’t a major change. We just knew that if we wanted to have any kind of financial security – save for a home, for retirement, for a family – then we had to put away a significant amount of cash. We did it by making some pretty big lifestyle decisions, including staying on a small, one-bedroom apartment until our baby was three months old, which meant we could avoid car use, too. We also kept our food budget pretty low by cooking relatively inexpensive, mainly vegetarian meals. Focusing on those big three costs – housing, food, and transportation – was the key.

But I should also add that saving one-third is pretty much impossible at certain times of your life, especially after big changes – a recent graduation, new baby, or new house. In the past year, we had a baby and also bought a house. That caused a big shock to our savings rate and we haven’t yet recovered  – although we are trying!


What was the biggest sacrifice you made?

Housing. In our tiny apartment, we would watch HGTV and lust after the nice homes. We could have afforded a nicer apartment or a two-bedroom, but we resisted, and eventually we saved enough money for a down payment on our current house.  

Were there any moments of temptation? How did you deal with that?

Not really, because we pretty much adjusted to our frugal lifestyle, so we didn’t miss anything. Well, maybe when we visited a friend’s nice home we would be momentarily envious. But we did indulge in some small things, like a nice flat-screen television, and expensive craft beer, so it’s not like we were living a Spartan lifestyle.

What part, if any, did asking/negotiation play in cutting costs?

Huge! I have to give my husband credit for this because he is the master of negotiating, although I am getting better myself. We ended up getting access to a beautiful hotel pool near our apartment all summer long for almost no money just because he asked for cheap passes. We also had success negotiating hotels for getaways and smaller retail purchases. Those little savings add up.
  
I understand it took some experimenting to find the best ways to save. Can you tell me about two or three different approaches you took, and why each was (or wasn't) effective?

There were a few times when we said, “Let’s cut out restaurant meals, because that is such a drain on our budget.” But it never stuck. We always ended up going back to our favorite place on Friday nights. And you know, that is okay. We needed some reward for our hard work. So for us, cutting out restaurant meals altogether wasn’t the way to go.
  
How much of this goal required you to disconnect from societal pressures and expectations about "what one should buy/own" and just do what you felt was right?

We actually found that almost all our friends were also trying to be more frugal, so after we explained to them our plan to save more, it wasn’t hard to get them on board. It turns out a lot of people would rather skip the expensive social plans, too. There are cheaper ways to hang out and have fun, like taking turns hosting dinner parties. Because so many people our age also care about saving, I never really felt that “keeping up with the Jones” pressure.
    
What's the path of least resistance -- i.e. the easiest way to boost savings?

You have to find the strategy that works best with your lifestyle, which requires some introspection. If you love fashion, don’t cut your clothing budget. Cut your food and housing budget instead. Your spending has to be aligned with your passions or it will never stick.

Any "golden rules" of saving -- a must do for anyone, regardless of age, income bracket, location, family situation, employment status?

My favorite is pretty basic: You have to spend less than you earn. It can be pretty profound once you really think about it though. For people used to using credit cards, it requires a mindset adjustment.


How are you different today?

I have so many more financial responsibilities that it’s harder than ever to save and be frugal! The biggest, of course, is my baby.  I spend so much on her, partly because I’m a new mom and still experimenting with what I need and what I don’t need, and also because I think it is a natural reaction of parents to want to spoil their children! I can’t help it, I want to buy her the best of everything.


If any readers decide to try saving a third of their income, or a version of it, can you point them to some resources -- either blog posts or, ahem, your book -- so they can get some more guidance?

In Generation Earn, I focused on how to zone in on goals so you can be smart about spending and lifestyle choices and save a significant amount of your income. The most successful savers profiled in my book are ones who started small, by saving even just $10 a week, and then slowly ramping that up, because it’s partly about establishing a habit. That’s why I also recommend budgeting tools like Mint.com, so you can start slowly and work towards your bigger goals.

image source: courtesy of Kimberly Palmer

December 21, 2010

Part-time salary negotiation: Expert Q&A

Today I'm excited to introduce a new feature on The Daily Asker: A series of expert Q&A's, in which I interview people who are excellent askers or negotiators about very specific topics. Think of these posts as kittens sprinkled with powdered sugar and armed with machetes.

Short. Sweet. And, when used correctly, lethally effective.

To kick things off I decided to focus on a subject that keeps sending people to my blog via Google keyword searches, and which is especially relevant in this economy:

Part-Time Salary Negotiation

Expert: Victoria Pynchon
Twitter bio: author, attorney mediator-arbitrator and negotiation trainer and consultant
Check out: "How to negotiate your job back after getting fired" via Forbes.
Why she rocks: She wants the world to be a better place for women and every day she is taking huge steps to make it that way. How? By teaching women to be better negotiators, more supportive of one another and, most importantly, their own best advocates.

When you negotiate a salary for a part-time job, is it any different from doing so for a full-time job?

Pynchon: In principle there's no difference between negotiating a part-time and a full-time salary. It comes down to doing a market value analysis, which means asking "What is the market paying?" and "What do I bring to the market, or the part-time job, that somebody else wouldn't?" This depends on the job and the industry. You can prorate your target salary based on annual compensation or work up from an hourly rate, but the idea is the same as with a full-time job. And yes, you should always negotiate.

Since part-time jobs don't usually include benefits, vacation time and whatever else is included in those bigger (but dwindling) compensation packages, does that change the negotiation game?

Pynchon: The best strategy is to focus on items that are of high value to you but low expense to your employer. If your employer has overhead, if your employer has full-time employees, it wouldn't cost that much more to add you to the health plan. You might be willing to work less per hour if they'd be willing to put you on the health plan. The problem is that people don't think. They just put you into a cubby hole: "You're part-time so you're not going to get health benefits." Why? What's the extra cost to the employer to provide you, a part-time employee, with health benefits? [RP: Here's one uber-detailed answer: http://ehbs.kff.org/]

What is a common pitfall with part-time salary negotiations and how do you work around it?

Pynchon: Professional people, especially women, are totally screwed by part-time employment, because they work way more than part time. And they're not being compensated for the additional time. They're just working harder. With part-time work for lawyers, I've never seen it work for anyone but the law firm. So that is something that should be negotiated. You need to address the hours worked, the schedule, the expectations and the workload, and how excess hours are going to be treated. Bring up these issues before you shake hands, or your earnings will be a lot smaller than what you bargained for.

Thank you, Vickie!

And now a question for you, readers:

Can you think of any specific scenarios you'd like addressed or topics you'd like to learn about in these short, tactical, expert Q&A's?

May 12, 2009

9 negotiation lessons from the trenches

May 12. Day 316.

What do buying a car, locking up the Chicago mob and being a total rockstar have in common?

Negotiation!!!

This afternoon, I found myself in the living room of Gay Hugo-Martinez, a professional acquaintance. (It's related to the side work I do.) Once our meeting was over, I asked her about her background, since I'd heard she used to be a lawyer and totally changed tracks a few years ago.

Turns out that before moving to San Diego, she fought organized crime in Chicago in the 1970s.

As she sat demurely in her sunny home, she poured out stories complete with phrases like, "Organized crime figures won’t kill prosecutors. They know that if they kill one, there's another one right behind them that will do the work." Another gem: "If one of us has to go into the witness protection program, that’s not going to be a picnic" (words she told a colleague back in the day). And, my favorite: "I knew that if he (the hitman she put behind bars for 25 years) wanted somebody killed from his jail cell, he could do it."

Day-am.

And then, she mentioned the golden word: negotiation.

"Negotiation? I'm obsessed with that! Can you tell me more?"

Being a federal prosecutor involves a lot of persuading, negotiating, getting the other side to do what you want, she explained. Here are a few tips I gleaned from our brief but riveting conversation, which she kindly agreed to let me post:

Interview with Gay Hugo-Martinez about Negotiation, Empathy, Playing Hardball and Playing Fair

1. Know your strengths and weaknesses

Enter any negotiation with a firm idea of what you're willing to risk and what you stand to gain. Obviously, the stronger your strengths, the more bargaining power you have. "How much are you willing to give in order to get what you want?" she asked. For best results, figure this out before starting.

2. Know the other side's strengths and weaknesses

This helps with persuasion, knowing when to back away, knowing when to press harder. Think about it. If you can deduce what the other side is willing to give up, or what it can't stand to lose, you have the advantage. A simple example: this is a great time to buy a car, since dealers are struggling.

3. "Go for the gold"

"Ask!" she said. Yes, ask. Her word exactly. So many times, people shoot themselves down. She tells this to her kids, to strangers in her living room asking about asking. Ask! Ask for more than you think you'll get, ask when you think you might not get. "You have nothing to lose," she added.

4. Be empathetic

Empathy can be a powerful tool. It helps you imagine the other side's position, and it might encourage you to take reasonable risks. For example, maybe you think asking for a free cucumber at the farmer's market is rude or silly. But imagine that you were selling veggies and someone asked you to throw in a sample. You'd probably be happy to show off your wares and attact a new customer with a sample. Not such a crazy thing to ask after all, right?

"It works better if you say to yourself, ok, if you were in this position and somebody came to you and asked you, would you think this was reasonable?" she said.

5. Be fair

Related to this: let's say your position is so strong, or the other side is so needy, that you could run circles around them with your demands. Stop. Think about it. Then play fair. It's what you'd hope from the other side, if you were in the weaker position.

6. Enthusiasm can be your friend

I used to think that if you look excited about something in a negotiation, that was a weakness. For example, "What a perfect car! I reeeeeally want it! Yipee!!!" could tell the dealer that I'm eager and willing to pay anything. Bad.

Not necessarily so, she said. Who would you rather deal with: Someone who really likes your product but claims she has a limited budget, or someone who doesn't seem to like your product but claims she has a limited budget? Who's more likely to seal the deal?

This is an especially useful foundation for the next step:

7. Hardball: Walk away


If you're not getting what you want, and if you know you have a strong position, walk away, calmly and coolly.

"In negotiation, if you have a positon and you think you’re right, it’s better to pull back and walk away and wait," she said. "Then the other person knows there’s some credibility in your position, and that may be your bottom line."

Added tip: never walk into a car dealership expecting to drive away. Always give them your number, then tell them to call you. Repeat after her: " 'I’m sorry, that's just not what I’m willing to pay. You guys change your mind, call me.' Then turn around and walk out."

8. Keep doing it

"The more you do it, the more comfortable you become, the easier it becomes for you to do it, and the better you get at it."

(After 316 days of asking, I can add: so true!)

9. Women do ask

I was curious if she thought women ever underestimate the strength of their positions (alluding to the idea that women may hesitate to ask because they don't realize they're in a position to do so.)

She replied that not every woman has good negotiation skills, but not every man has them either.

Good to keep in mind.

Gained: Advice from a masterful negotiator. And thanks again for agreeing to be featured on this blog!

Later, I did a small negotiation of my own.

I went to get Mr. A's car washed. The posted price was $13.99, but I wanted to test out a few of these tips.

My strength: the other car washes nearby, which might be cheaper or honor a coupon I had
My weakness: no time or desire to move
My insider knowledge: many businesses offer coupons - so even if I didn't have his exact coupon, but maybe I could use that info to score?

His strength: convenience -- I was in his parking lot
His weakness: didn't have the best price
His insider knowledge: no idea

What I wanted: a discount and a clean car
What he wanted: a customer

"Hi," I started, from inside the car (trying to look ready to drive away). "I was wondering, do you guys have any coupons you could apply? Even if I don't have the actual print out?"

"No, I'm afraid not."

"Oh, ok. Because I have coupons for a bunch of car washes, but I'm here now. Any chance you could honor one of those?"

"I can do even better. Keep your coupon, and I'll give you $2 off any wash."

"That sounds good. Thanks!"

Gained: $2. Not exactly locking up the mob, but applied today's lessons, from theory to practice. Next step: buy a car, this summer. And save big time.